How to Feel Loved

 

We all have a deep longing to be loved and feel it. We engage in endless activities pursuing love. Many at times, we may find ourselves in a position where we feel unloved and rejected.However, that's not always the truth; this is often mostly a result of miscommunication and misunderstanding of each other love's expressions.That is where we miss the mark. Feeling loved starts from within. 

Our inner self is reflected on how we relate with others. You'll not give that which you do not have.In my opinion, the notion of finding a partner to complete you is so wrong. You simply need someone who compliments you.You can love and provide your all to someone but still feel empty, unloved and unappreciated. The same way, once you depend on somebody else's love,it causes you to feel frustrated.If you are feeling desperate for another's person love, it's a symbol that you simply are seeking for love desperately. Even if you find someone who truly loves you, you'll still feel unfulfilled and inadequate.You will doubt the genuineness of the love being offered to you because you do not believe someone can love you that much.That is why it's crucial for everybody to develop self-love.

With that in mind, how do you make yourself ready to feel love? Here are  a few tips to assist you start your self love journey.

Self-Awareness

Knowing who you're, what your principles and values are, makes it easy for you to become conscious of yourself hence develop love for yourself. Taking time to be with yourself, connect with your inner being causes you to know your strength and weaknesses.You are able to internalize and evaluate yourself. You can manage your emotions and understand  why you chase love and the way to avoid doing that.

Have a High Self-Esteem.

How you see your self has a  huge impact on how you're keen on yourself. Try seeing yourself as the most vital, wonderful and unique being on Earth. This way,you become more confident in what you are doing or say This helps to build up your self-image boosting your esteem. With a high self-esteem, you're ready to engage yourself In healthy relationships. You will not Lower your standards nor accept the bare minimum during a relationship. This is  because you respect and value yourself.

Build Your Self-Confidence.

Having Confidence in yourself means having trust in yourself. Besides this, it means you're comfortable and at peace  with who you're.When you wear your confidence on, you attract people to you. People begin to believe and trust you; love paves its way in automatically. This is often because human beings are naturally  drawn to happy and assured people. You can build your self-confidence through speaking positively to yourself, become a professional at what you do best, have standards, values and principles which you do not compromise. Speak up for yourself.

Practice self-Care

Taking care of how our mental, physical and spiritual life is vital while in the process of loving yourself. When your body is in a perfect condition, you'll cherish yourself. There are varieties of activities  that can make you to love yourself.If you would like to change your body weight: eat healthy and exercise.Have enough sleep rest.Everyday dress up in your best clothes albeit you're not going anywhere.Have a conversation with yourself on the mirror. Meet with your family and friends and have fun.

Volunteer

As the saying goes, if you do not know who you're then loose yourself in service of others. Volunteering may be a good way for you to develop self-love. Showing kindness, empathy and compassion to others boost how you are feeling about yourself. It is often doing the simple little things like cleaning your church or visiting the elderly. Besides this, practicing gratitude may be a great way to understand your self more and be appreciative. Life's challenges blind us to not see how blessed we are. Finding something to be grateful for is fulfilling. It causes you to be  happy and thankful of who you're. Consider having a journal where you write a minimum of 10 things you are grateful for in life daily. 

After knowing who you're and developing love for yourself. You should be more open about your feelings Give yourself an opportunity to experience true and unconditional love. Do not be too hard on yourself. Believe and acknowledge what you are feeling. While it is vital to protect yourself from people that want to use you, try opening yourself to receive and give love. Being in love means accepting vulnerability. Comfortably showing who you're to your partner without being judged. Being silent of how you are feeling will only hurt you. It is time for you to stop doubting and pushing away those that profess their love towards you.

Fact is, you cannot change or control how people feel about you. So once you spend  time depending on others for love. You'll most of the time find yourself disappointed, dissatisfied and angry with yourself. What you ought to do is be your own source of affection. Be contented with who you're, embrace your flaws and stop stressing on things out of your control.You need to start treating your self the way you treat others. Be your favorite fan and always put yourself first. This is often not selfishness, rather a gesture of self affection. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Loving yourself is a process that needs commitment, consistency, hardworking and patience. You should practice daily on the way to love yourself. Do the mundane things that you simply often assume.It has profound impact on the end of the day.Create a habit, stick with it until it is your lifestyle.

As you start to like yourself every day more and more, you start to feel love from others. Trust me, it is often there... 

5 Ingredients For Living Longer

We all wish to live forever. Who wants to die anyway? We all would like to live a healthy, fruitful life for along time. However, we do nothing much to ensure that. We rarely take care of ourselves. According to the National Center for Health Statistics WISQARS Years of Potential Life Lost (YPLL) Report, diseases such as cancer, heart disease make a lot of us not to reach 75 years. Also, homicide and drug deaths contribute to loss of life at an early stage. The good news is that we can prevent ourselves from dying prematurely if we change our lifestyle. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) have estimated that 20-40% of premature deaths are preventable. These simple tips will help you get started with you living longer.



1. Practice gratitude



"Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some."



-Charles Dickens



Having an attitude of gratitude makes you live life happily, contented and succeed in all your endeavors. You won't be in on things you can't control. You will begin to see life with another perspective. Appreciate the little things in life. It makes an impact to your general whole being. Make a habit of writing daily what you are grateful for in life. You will begin to look life with a glass half full. Furthermore, you will soon realize how lucky you are!



2. Have a good night sleep



Well, I don't mean for you to sleep like you won't ever sleep again. The recommended amount of sleep is 6 - 8 hours. When you are well rested, you are more happy, motivated to face the day ahead and less likely to be stressed. I understand it can be a challenge sleeping for these hours because we always have something left to finish which makes us get inadequate rest. With this hacks you will be able to get the much needed rest



✓ Do not go to bed with your phone



✓ Stay away from alcohol and coffee



✓ Eat early at least 2 hours before going to bed



✓ Dim your lights



✓ Don't watch television in bed







3.Drink more water.



We harm our body organs each day when we fail to drink the required amount of water. We ought to drink at least 2 litres of water every day. This is beneficial to your general whole body including your skin. I know most of us have a problem drinking plain water. Here's a little tip to help you master the habit of drinking more water. Try adding flavour like mint, chia seeds or lemon to your water. Also, drinking warm water is great for your body. Consider drinking it every morning when you wake up and before going to bed.



4. Eat healthy



In this current age, smoking, drinking alcohol has been normalized such that if you don't, you seem outdated. When you drink or smoke you are actually reducing your life span with 10 years.We also eat unhealthy foods and snacks which have chemicals that is detrimental to our health. The key to eating healthy is not through fasting or skipping meals rather it's about how much calories you take in. There should be a balance in your diet. This helps your body to get the required nutrients needed for your growth. Men should take 2500 calories each day while women need to have 2000 calories. Reduce the amount of sugar and salt intake. You can substitute your favorite drinks and snacks with fruits and natural juices.



5. Spend time with friends and family



While It's crucial to spend time with your self, it boosts your creativity and you are more aware of yourself, spending time with your Loved ones makes a huge difference in your life. It reduces stress and you are happier. Your sense to belong is met when you spend quality time with your friends and family. It doesn't matter even if you are an introvert, make an effort to be with your friends. When you have supportive friends and family, your mental status will be okay. You are aware that you can turn to them for help when you are faced with challenges. Be wary of frienemies. They will only drain you, choose friends who you share the same goals and purpose in life. Some activities that can make it fun spending time with family and friends include



✓ go out together



✓ watch a movie



✓ eat together



✓ pray together



✓ go hiking







It's doable to have a healthy lifestyle, but it needs you to put effort. Being consistent, disciplined and focused will help you achieve that. Besides this, practice meditation and sun bathing, it's vital to your well being. 50 years from now you will thank yourself for doing this.Lastly, don't forget to smile, it will improve your mood and make you look younger. 



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Revealed :The Secret to Success - Self -Confidence

If your desire is to live a happier, contented and successful life then you ought to be confident in your self.Our performances in life are mainly results of the level of confidence we have in ourselves.It has been limited to only believing in yourself.However, having high self-confidence means being contented and peaceful with who you are and knowing who you are. You believe and trust your own abilities and strengths. When you are confident enough, you automatically attract success to your life. You are motivated to pursue your dreams and brave enough to face any challenge you encounter without fear of failure.You push your self out of your comfort zone and set high goals for your self. I doubt there's any successful being who succeeded with low Self-confidence.



Why is Self-confidence the Key to Success?



Confidence is everything.We live and die in our own minds and die in our minds. So if we are Incredible in our minds, we live and die incredibly. 

Author Kenneth Nate



With self-confidence, you are aware of who you are, your goals, values, strengths and weaknesses. This helps you determine what works best for you and what doesn't. You are therefore in a better position to choose a career, business or life that suits you. Chances of you excelling in your life are high with self-confidence. Here are reasons how success and confidence are connected. Consider reading this with your most favorite successful people in mind and see if it makes any sense to you.



Resilience

Almost all successful people I know, have one thing in common - being resilient. They are able to withstand any harsh environment or experience. Be it failure or obstacles. They are flexible enough to take on risks and accept the responsibilities of their decisions. It's a fundamental skill one needs to have in order to thrive successfully. Once you have mastered the skill of self-confidence, you won't worry about failing. You believe and trust your self that you will eventually meet your goals and dreams.



Self-belief

Nothing positive will ever come to your life if you don't believe on yourself. Confident people attract opportunities and people into their lives. Ever gone to a function then when someone walks in, he/she is surrounded with an aura of confidence? Most likely, before the session ends, he/she would have made new friends, career partners and gotten plenty of ideas.One trait with successful people is great interpersonal skills. They easily relate with others and Know how to sell themselves. This is because they have held themselves high. You should trust yourself that you are capable to achieve anything that your heart's desire. Most confident people believe so much in themselves. They take life challenges as they come without doubt. They are brave enough to take the necessary steps to success and also courageous to face the consequences of their actions.

Ability to say Yes or No

Self-confidence means knowing your worth and not settling for the bare minimum. Those who are accomplished in life know when to say yes or no to opportunities and people. They are aware of what they want in life and directly pursue it. They have self-respect and don't fall victims to destructions.They Know when it's time to let go or to keep on fighting. Having a clear picture of what you want makes you live a happy and focused life. You won't spend time trying to fit in somebody's description about you or please them. For you to be successful, you need to learn to say No unapologetically without necessarily providing an explanation. When you have boundaries in your life, you will not engage in anything that is harmful to you or your time. Besides this, successful people have values and principles which they live by. They don't get swayed with circumstances. All of this is possible because they are confident in their own morals.



How do you develop self-confidence? 

Reading all the resources available on being Confident is not enough to make you successful, taking action is all that makes a difference.Confidence makes you be a fulfilled person.You don't quit whatever the circumstances may be. It helps you focus on the areas where you failed and rectify.If u lack self-confidence, you are likely to be filled with pessimism and negative attitude and self talk.You are always dissatisfied. The mundane chores of your daily life seem to be challenging when you lack confidence.

 Most of us are struggling in life because we have not mastered this Indispensable skill. The good news is that confidence it's actually something you can learn, practice and master. It's not too late for us to embark on this journey so as to open our lives to success. Arthur Ashe wrote,"one important key to success is self-confidence. An imposition key to self-confidence is preparation."I have compiled a number of ways to help you build your confidence and embrace a happier life.For you to hack this, you should practice it daily, be patient enough and trust the process.



Shift your mindset.

It all starts with the mind. As a man thinketh so is he.It is therefore important to change your perspective about your self.Change any negative talk that happens in your head by counteracting it by saying positive things about yourself.Take time to reflect on how you talk to your inner self. Whenever you notice your inner self being too judgemental, stop, consider it, evaluate the truth and speak positively to your inner self.



Take care of yourself.

This sounds easy to do but most don't actually take the action. Simple things like taking care of your nails or hair make a huge impact on your appearance. When you look good, you will begin to feel confident in your self. It is important for you to accept and embrace your self fully. Exercise is also a good way of looking out for yourself. Working out makes you happy and motivated. You will be staying healthy as well as achieving a fit body. When you work out, your body releases endorphins which make you happy.This boosts your confidence in being you. 



Change your wardrobe.

You are probably thinking what does your wardrobe got to do with developing self-confidence. Well, it does. How you dress can actually change the way you look and feel about your self. Taking time and effort when you dress and put your makeup on will make you look presentable and in turn your self-confidence will be boosted. You can also wear your favorite fragrance. If you smell good you will definitely feel happy about yourself too. Dressing poorly on the contrary leads to inferiority complex and low self-esteem.Find your style and go shopping. Modify Your wardrobe. You will come to love yourself much more and also build your confidence.



Do positive affirmations.

These are phrases that you tell your self-daily. They motivate and encourage you as you pursue your aspirations in life. Self-affirmations are a great tool to help you stay in track in your self-confidence journey.You will be able to create a stronger sense of self-love and confidence. You can have 10 phrases that sits well with you.It can either focus on your physical, mental or spiritually state but I highly recommend balancing all of them. Form a habit of reading them to yourself every morning and evening.Doing it in a mirror will help you feel connected with your inner self.Our subconscious mind works in repetition hence soon enough you will believe what you told your self.



Know your fears.

Every problem has it's own root cause. You can find out what makes you have a low self-confidence through self-reflection. Take time to explore and understand what the problem is and seeks the right measures to overcome it.Incase you face any difficulties in finding what the problem is, feel free to talk with a therapist to help you on this journey. It's important that you also accept what the problem is and move on. 

It's true that self-Confidence is a prerequisite to success and happiness, but being overconfident it is not beneficial to you. As we all know that excess of anything is harmful. Over confidence is in fact a reason why a lot of people fail in life.This is because they become arrogant and rude. With such an attitude, your chances of growing are slim. Henry Ford said,"whether You think You can or you think you can't - you are right!"The ball is in our court to make a conscious decision of changing our lives through self-confidence that's if we desire to be successful.



 

Benefits Of Technology In Service Delivery

 

Do you remember the times you had to wait in the queue for a long time before collecting your paycheck? Well, a lot has changed. Technology has made the world a global village where you can get access to any service you need. It's no doubt that the new technology plays a major role in our daily lives. I've highlighted some advantages of technology in delivering service below:

Easy, Faster and Effective Communication

Customers have an ample time of getting the information of the service they need at the shortest time possible through technology. This makes the employees able to serve the customers to their utmost satisfaction. By use of different search tools like Google, one gets to have immediate information of everything there's to know on that particular service. For instance, if you need to book a hotel, you only need to check on Google or their website about the services and go ahead and communicate with them. It's that simple! The use of technology in service delivery has made a lot of confusion, dissatisfied be avoided because of the clarity brought by use of the Internet. It has brought efficiency in delivering the service.

Large Clientele Base

It has made it possible for service delivery around the world. Customers and employees from all round the world are able to interact For instance, Alibaba is a wholesale online shop that attracts the client from all corners of the world. Customers Therefore are able to have access to the goods they desire without being restricted by distance. There are different social media platforms like WhatsApp, Instagram and Twitter where employees are able to market their services. This information can be accessed by everyone around the globe as long as he / she is using that particular platform hence the service reaches out to more customers. It has also allowed customization of their services to fit the clients need.

Self-Service  

It's no longer necessary for one to wait for hours to be served in different capacities like in banks, booking hotels or airplanes and at supermarkets. It's now easy to get what you want at where you are at without having to move as long as you have the required software apps with you in your phone, laptop or computer. New technology has brought efficiency and convenience because you can get what you need at anytime(no time restrictions). It saves a lot of time and cost because of less mobility. A lot of space that was initially used for stocking are now managed efficiently using the internet. Records are kept safely through the different online storage like Cloud and Google Drive, and It's a convenient way to live.

Likewise, it's true that the advanced technology has brought an easy, efficient and convenient way of living. It has also led to many innovations in different fields However. It's important to note some of its disadvantage like loss of human touch. It's Therefore important to bring a balance to how you embrace technology.

5 Ways You Are Sabotaging Yourself

In one way or the other, we all tend to suffer or have suffered in self-sabotaging behaviors. It could be knowingly or unaware of how your actions are affecting your life. This is the behavior that hinders our success, life and relationships even though you have your dreams and wishes to fulfill. It has been proven that the actual root cause of such characters comes from low self-esteem and negative attitude and emotions.In this article I would reveal to you some of the behaviors that make you less effective. To keep you aware of them.Read on!

Procrastination

Think about the time you had an assignment to do, but you pushed it to later and instead scrolled down through Facebook or Whatsapp enjoying the memes. Right! I believe most of us are guilty of this. Although this seems a fun way of living, the truth is that most of the times we end up not doing the assignment completely or doing it in haste so that you don't get great results. Procrastination is a deadly disease to your life and success as it makes you not to rich your full potential. We need to think beyond why we procrastinate, it can be because of fear or doubt, and start taking action today. Our future can only be bright if we stop procrastinating and work.

Comparison

Have you heard the saying "Comparison is The Killer Of Joy"? I'm certain we have all encountered the saying, but have we taken time to internalize it? The truth is comparison is a sure way for you to derail your own life and success. Comparison will make you feel frustrated and disappointed in yourself. You will eventually start feeling that you are not good enough. Do not kill yourself because of somebody else's success. We ought to understand that we are all on our own different time frames. We should learn not to compete but rather to collaborate. What you desire will only come to you when the time is right!

Self-criticism

Do you recognize that inner voice that always makes you doubt your capabilities and worth? That is self-criticism and also a part of self-sabotaging behaviors.It's important for you to be aware of your thoughts and that inner voice in order to avoid paying attention to it. What is your inner voice speaking to you my sound the easy way out of any situation? However, you need to get out of your head and start taking action without fear of failure. We need to train ourselves to stop believing in our inner voice because it can only bring us to have low self-esteem and low self-belief.

Pessimism

When you always have a tendency of seeing only the bad side of life, situations or people, this is a sign for you to know you are doing more harm to your life's productivity. You don't see beauty in the world. Such character makes you fail to appreciate the little things in your world. Gratitude is an important part of any being who desires to live happily.No goodness can come out of a pessimist. The law of nature works according to the strength of your emotions. If you always have a negative attitude and emotions, nature will also bring you loads of reasons for you to continue having negative thoughts.Success thrives to those who view life with a half-full glass. You can only attract who you are!

Overindulgence

We all have a way to deal with our emotions, either happy or sad. It becomes self-sabotaging behavior when we fail to face whatever we are feeling and indulge in harmful practices. Such practices may harm us physically, emotionally, mentally and socially.Drug misuse, overeating are examples of overindulgence. Running away from a problem never solves anything. Overindulging affects your productivity, and your life gets wasted. Finding a way to deal with your emotions can be of great help in making you not to use too much of drugs or food. Having friends over or trying out new hobbies is an activity you can engage in.

As individuals, growth is crucial to occur for development and success in our endeavors.We therefore need to be on the look out for such sabotaging behaviors and do away with such characters.Identify the behaviors that curtail you from living a fully enriched life. It may be difficult to let go of your self-destructive ways, but it's important to remember that it's only for your dream. Start taking action today. Good luck on that!